Am I Lazy, Stupid, Messy, Flaky? ADHD

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ADHD can be challenging enough, but the stigma surrounding it can sometimes be worse. We’re labeled “lazy,” “stupid,” “messy,” “flaky,” and a lot more – sometimes by people we respect. Sometimes we label ourselves. What it all comes down to is “shame.”

When everyone around you is doubting you, it’s really hard not to doubt yourself. Here’s how to cope.

(spoiler: sometimes one of the best tools we have is each other)


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